How to Help a Loved One Experiencing Anxiety
Anxiety can be heavy, not just for the person living with it, but also for those who love them. If someone close to you is struggling with anxiety, you may feel helpless or unsure about how to offer the best support. It’s normal to want to make things better, but knowing how to help in a way that truly makes a difference can feel overwhelming.
At our therapy practice, we understand how painful it can be to watch someone you care about face anxiety. It's a daily struggle that can feel isolating, confusing, and draining for everyone involved. The good news is that you can make a difference, and there are actionable steps you can take to support your loved one while also encouraging them to seek the help they deserve.
Here are some practical ways you can support a loved one experiencing anxiety:
1. Listen Without Judgment
Anxiety isn’t just about feeling nervous or stressed; it’s an overwhelming, often paralyzing experience. The best way to support someone in the midst of this is to listen with empathy and without judgment. Let them express their feelings without trying to "fix" the problem right away. Sometimes, the most healing thing you can do is simply be there to hear them. I know it’s tempting to “fix” it for them but it’s essential to allow them to take ownership of their journey.
Tip: Instead of offering advice or dismissing their feelings, say things like, “I hear you, and I’m here for you.” Your presence alone can bring a sense of comfort and validation.
2. Be Patient and Calm
During an anxious moment, your loved one may feel a sense of panic or urgency. It can be difficult to remain calm, but your steady presence can help them regain their balance. Anxiety clouds the mind, and a calm, patient response can be a grounding force.
Tip: Encourage slow, deep breaths or guide them to a quiet, calm space. Your reassuring presence can make all the difference in these moments.
Pro Tip: If you know their love language is physical touch, this can be a great opportunity to offer a hug or a gentle back rub letting them know you’re with them.
3. Encourage Professional Help, When Needed
While you’re doing everything you can to support your loved one, it’s important to remember that professional help is often necessary. Therapy can be a safe space for them to understand their anxiety, develop coping strategies, and begin their journey to healing. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) is particularly effective in treating anxiety by helping individuals challenge negative thought patterns.
Tip: Encourage your loved one to take the first step toward therapy by offering to help them find a therapist or even accompany them to their first session. It's a sign of strength, not weakness, to ask for help.
4. Provide Practical Support
Anxiety can make even simple tasks feel overwhelming. Offering practical support can ease their burden and give them one less thing to worry about. Whether it's helping with everyday chores, running errands, or simply being there during a tough time, your actions can help relieve some of the pressure they feel.
Tip: Instead of offering a vague, “Let me know if you need anything,” offer specific help like, “I can pick up groceries for you” or “Let me help you with that task today.”
Pro Tip: After applying steps 1-3, you might have more of an insight as to what is overwhelming them. Instead of offering “solutions,” help them identify one small change they can make that feels achievable.
For example, if they’re feeling overwhelmed by social events, they might set a goal of attending one small gathering or talking to one person they trust. Start with something simple that allows them to feel successful.
5. Learn About Anxiety
Understanding anxiety more deeply allows you to be a better source of support. Anxiety is not just a feeling, it involves complex physical and emotional reactions. By learning about anxiety, you can approach your loved one with compassion, understanding that what they’re going through is real and not something they can “just snap out of.”
Tip: Turn to trusted resources like the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) or the Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA) for credible information that will deepen your empathy and knowledge.
6. Encourage Healthy Lifestyle Changes
While professional therapy is essential, lifestyle factors like diet, sleep, and exercise can also play an important role in reducing anxiety. Encouraging your loved one to practice self-care can empower them to take small, manageable steps towards feeling better.
Tip: Invite them to join you in simple, calming activities like a nature walk, yoga, or preparing a nutritious meal together. These positive routines can make a huge difference in managing anxiety.
7. Know When to Seek Immediate Help
If your loved one’s anxiety is overwhelming or they are experiencing thoughts of self-harm, it’s crucial to get immediate help. Don’t hesitate to contact a mental health professional or call a helpline if you’re concerned about their well-being.
Tip: If you feel uncertain about the next steps, reach out to a therapist for guidance on how to proceed.
Pro Tip: Suicide and Crisis Hotline - 988 call or text
Pro Tip: San Diego Access and Crisis line - 1-888-724-7240
8. Be Supportive of Their Journey
Healing from anxiety is a journey, not a destination. There will be highs and lows along the way. Your ongoing support, patience, and encouragement will make a world of difference. Celebrate their victories—big and small—and remember that healing takes time.
Pro Tip: Suggest they check in with themselves regularly, weekly or monthly, to track progress and reflect on what’s working. It’s important for them to see how far they’ve come and adjust strategies when necessary.
Ready to Help Your Loved One Take the First Step Toward Healing?
Watching someone you love struggle with anxiety can feel heart-wrenching, but you don't have to face it alone. Our therapy practice is here to help guide both you and your loved one toward lasting healing. We specialize in helping individuals manage anxiety through evidence-based practices that empower them to take back control of their lives.
If you’re ready to support your loved one in a way that truly makes a difference, we invite you to take the first step today. Book a free phone consultation with one of our therapists, and let’s explore how we can work together to help your loved one feel better, manage their anxiety, and live a fuller, more peaceful life.
Don’t wait—reach out today. Your loved one’s journey to healing starts with the first call.
Sincerely,
Your Bloom Therapist